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But all you know is that you don’t need X. Or you are only clear that Y is not for you. Or F or G for that matter.
I’ve had a few conversations lately with some struggles about relationship. I’ve also had a few friendship struggles about conversations. I’m thinking it all lumps back to some sort of roundabout way of seeing life as a competition.
Me vs. you.
Us vs. them.
I have to win.
You have to lose.
Either / or.
I’m right / you are wrong. You are right / I’m wrong.
Black and white thinking and avoidance of feeling the real feelings.
When something doesn’t fit, I can struggle with realizing that a non-fit is ok.
It just is (to borrow a quote from my brother).
It doesn’t need to be sorted, rectified, reasoned, or as a default – blamed. A non-fit, even with something that used to fit, is just not a fit. It’s like gaining weight and your favorite shorts don’t fit, or growing 4” and your pants don’t really reach your ankles anymore, or listening to your heart, and realizing that what used to fill you up no longer does.
Our interests, our loves, our passions, our desires and our longings grow and change with us. As we grow, discover, evolve, learn, and open our hearts our energy rolls and twists and turns to guide and lead us as well.
What we are being asked to do is to step back and listen. Open to the longings, desire, nudges.
To stop trying to fit our square peg in that round hole.
Listen. Listen for the real invitation. For the opening. For the place where your heart leaps or takes a big huge sigh. Then you will know how to turn towards what feels light.
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